Determined To Succeed

Lance Armstrong won the Tour de France so many times, despite the bitterness of the French press that tried to discredit him time and again, that it astonishes us. He rose from cancer victim to cancer conqueror to cycling victor. He was determined. At times he fell behind other cyclists in different stages of the races. Reportedly, falling behind was on purpose so he could conserve his strength for more difficult stages. Other times, it was because someone, perhaps a sprinter, put on a burst of speed and outdid him.

He proved himself to be a champion racer. He did not quite make it to champion father. With several legitimate and illegitimate children to his credit and discredit, he seems to show no remorse, at least publicly, over his apparent failure as a good husband or father.

Nevertheless, champion though he was on the bicycle, he was a dud when it came to relationships and marriage. With several legitimate and illegitimate children to his credit and discredit, he seems to show no remorse, at least publicly, over his apparent failure as a good husband or father. We say that because if he were a good husband, he would have worked on preserving his marriage, and wouldn’t have a bevy of “relationships” behind him. His legitimate children would still have a full time father, and his other children wouldn’t have to carry the stigma of illegitimacy around with them all of their lives.

Perhaps the fact that he was an illegitimate child, himself, that his birth father left him and his mother, and that his mother had married and divorced three times, had something to do with his attitude toward relationships Or perhaps it was his lack of faith as an agnostic. He is quoted as saying: At the end of the day, if there was indeed some body or presence standing there to judge me, I hoped I would be judged on whether I had lived a true life…

A true life? Excuse us? Yes, he was true to cycling. No, he wasn’t true in his personal life. Or so it seems. However, since we don’t know the man personally, it could be that he would have been true had his wives been true. We don’t know who was at fault, but if he is like the majority of men, and especially since he had to be gone much of the time to pursue his career, it is likely that he didn’t meet his wives’ and girlfriends’ emotional needs – essential for women.

Every marriage should strive to reach the arte level, the Greek word for excellence. “We have already achieved it” says the newlywed who is still starry-eyed and the truth hasn’t hit the fan yet. “We’re doing fine,” says the husband who isn’t meeting his wife’s emotional needs. “I gave up trying,” says the wife who has given up hope.

That’s what our Love Relationship System is all about – showing couples how to reach that level of arte or close to it so that their marriages will stay strong and secure.

Be willing to put the same indomitable spirit into making your marriage a victorious journey in life as Lance Armstrong has done to become a worldwide champion; so that, unlike him, you can save your marriage and give your children that wonderful knowledge that they have steady, loving parents who will keep things together. We give you the tools and the keys for doing just that at www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com: separate tools both for men and for women. Come join us now for a sparkling future in your marriage.

Margaret Hardisty International Best Selling Author and Speaker Dr. Vance Hardisty International Speaker and Author Love Relationship Headquarters www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com

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